What if your emotional health was like a bucket?
Some days it feels full, while other days it leaks faster than you can fill it. Those leaks–big or small–can come from many places. You may feel tired, sick, stressed, or depressed. It can also be from unresolved trauma (maybe that’s a big hole that has been there so long you don’t know what it’s like without it). Or sometimes it’s from collective pain, like the recent violence on UVU’s campus in Orem. This and other tragedies remind us how deeply connected our well being really is.
Here’s the truth: we all have holes in our buckets, and that’s ok.
Reflection point: Where are the holes in your bucket right now? What helps you patch them, even temporarily?
Patching the Holes
The good news is, we can do things to patch those leaks. These aren’t grand fixes—they’re small, intentional acts that reduce stress and create joy and connection.
- It could be as simple as noticing the colors of a sunset.
- It could be laughter with a friend, or quiet time alone.
- Whatever fills you, lean into it with your full attention.
The Power of Presence
When you pause to be fully present, you fill your bucket faster than the water leaks out.
- Feel the sun warming your skin.
- Notice the smell of fresh air or a cup of coffee.
- Watch the way your loved one’s face creases as they laugh.
Soak it in with all five senses. These moments may be brief, but they are powerful.
As Cat Stevens once sang, “If you want to sing out, sing out.” Whatever you choose, do it wholeheartedly. Start small—one mindful minute today, two tomorrow, maybe five later this week.
Challenge: Try setting a daily “bucket moment” reminder. When it goes off, pause—even for one minute—and take note of what is present with all 5 senses. Try to do it with a sense of “sensing” these things for the first time–full of wonder, curiosity, and new eyes.
Caring for Your Bucket
Some leaks need steady maintenance. Sleep, nourishing food, and movement are essential patches. So is reflecting on how you spend your time.
Ask yourself:
- Do my daily activities align with what truly brings me peace and connection?
- Where can I make small adjustments to care for myself better?
Over time, these small shifts add up. Your bucket won’t just leak less—it will hold more.
Asking for Help
Some holes run deep—anxiety, depression, trauma. You don’t have to patch those alone. If you’re struggling, reach out. Support is not weakness—it’s how we keep our buckets strong enough to carry what life gives us.
Your bucket may never be perfect, but with care, presence, and support, it can hold more than you think.
